Why Millennials Are Waiting Longer Than Ever To Get Married
Not long ago, there were very obvious social expectations when it came to settling down and getting married. Women especially felt the pressure to start a family as young as possible and many women sacrificed their career goals to do so.
Nowadays, the tide seems to be changing in terms of how people view marriage, and many young people are waiting until they're a bit more mature and established in their own lives before starting a family.
People Are Developing Modern Perspectives On Marriage
Marriage is not for everyone and that's okay.
On the flip side, for those people who have dreamed of walking down the aisle with the perfect person for their whole lives, it's understandable to want to get married sooner than later.
Dr. Helen Fisher Is Conducting Research On Singles And Human Attraction
Over the last decade, trends have shown that more and more young people (aka "millennials") are deciding to wait before jumping headfirst into marriage.
Dr. Helen Fisher is one of the leading experts on human attraction and her studies focus on interactions between singles as well as people in relationships.
Millennials Have A Different Approach To Commitment
The data collected by Dr. Fisher's current study with Match.com has revealed that millennials seem to have a different approach to commitment.
It's not necessarily that the younger generation is against the idea of commitment, just that some of them are more selective with it.
Young Adults In Our Culture Grew Up Around Divorce
Dr. Fisher says that young adults in our culture have become overly familiar with the consequences of divorce.
It is not uncommon for young adults to have been born into a family that has experienced divorce or grown up around parents who would eventually go through one.
There Is A Longer "Insurance" Period For Dating
According to Dr. Fisher, "Today, people are very cautious to enter into relationships because they've seen so much divorce."
As a result, dating has evolved into a lengthier process that has more of an "insurance" period, so to speak, that helps to protect each partner from potential disaster down the line.
Bad Relationships Are Easier To End When Marriage Is Not Involved
Since the earlier stage of a relationship is extending, Dr. Fisher says that bad relationships have a better chance of ending before a marriage occurs.
She highlights how in traditions of the past, marriage was often the beginning stage of a relationship, whereas now it is seen as a sort of finale or end goal.
Millennials Are Practicing What Dr. Fisher Calls "Slow Love"
Young couples' reluctance to get married, instead preferring to lengthen out the dating process, has been termed "slow love" by Dr. Fisher.
She says this phenomenon allows people to fully get to know their partner before deciding whether they are worth fully committing to.
Independence Is An Important Personality Trait In A Partner
It's more common now for young people to value independence in their partners.
Dr. Fisher's study revealed that 89% of the people surveyed wanted a partner with a sense of independence, which can take years to develop.
Millennials Are Experiencing "The Clooney Effect"
Dr. Fisher calls the desire to settle down later in life "the Clooney Effect" after celebrity actor George Clooney who famously settled down and started a family in his mid-50s.
The Clooney effect isn't restricted to just bachelorhood though and many women are also choosing to put off the family life for years longer in favor of a career.
Relationships That Take Longer To Form Tend To Be Stronger
Conclusively, Dr. Fisher says she does not believe that the number of committed marriages is decreasing.
Instead, she says that relationships are taking longer to form, leading to happier marriages in the long term. It seems like good things do come to those who wait.
